You cannot, sir, take from me any thing that I will more willingly part withal: except my life, except my life, except my life. William Shakespeare
Man learns more readily and remembers more willingly what excites his ridicule than what deserves esteem and respect. Horace
Sharpe wanted to be liked by the men under his command. He was tempted to believe that if he was friendly and approachable, reasonable and kind, then his men would follow him more willingly. But kindness was not the wellspring of loyalty and he knew the temptation had to be resisted. Bernard Cornwell